Can you ever truly be a ‘good’ person?
To be neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.Desmond Tutu
To be human, is to learn through experiences. No one is born perfect, this is what we must first acknowledge.
A lot of the time, people have this strange assumption that every activist believes themselves to be a godly and saintly person who can do no wrong. In fact, that’s quite the opposite.
Many of us have suffered so much so that, we have had to learn via our own negative experiences on what it means to be a ‘good’ person. It is not to say that people who are innately good do not exist – it is to say that perfection is quite the unattainable characteristic.
Too many activists that I have had the privilege and blessing to have met come from very impoverished* backgrounds. Why is it that such good people have had to experience these things in the first place? Was it necessary?
Not every activist was a ‘good’ person. I know I wasn’t.
My complicitness in the racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and xenophobic society has definitely not made me a ‘good’ person.
The self-hate that I projected to myself and others was so impactful that till this day, I still have a very negative image of myself.
But to this, I pledged no more. No more complicity to self-hate. No more pretentious behaviour of ‘appealing to the masses‘.
I wanted to be free. I wanted to be me.
So for those who are still closeted.
For those who are still conflicted.
For those suffering in silence in fear of prejudice and hate.
I dedicate my voice, the freedom that you deserve, to fight for what is good.
To fight for people to all experience a life with the ability to choose for themselves without the fear of ‘consequences’ which really, are just societal pressure via shaming.
What is wrong about loving someone of the same gender? Someone who is not of the same race? Someone who is trans? Someone who is disabled?
What is wrong with being able to express that this is okay?
We all are free to do our own choices. We are all free to choose to stay ignorant. We are all free to choose to be full of hate.
I’ve made my choice, have you made yours?
“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.”Audre Lorde
“I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.”Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists
“The function of freedom is to free someone else.”Toni Morrison
*impoverished – not always the financial connotations: rich in happiness; opportunities and guidance etc.